Things You Cannot Do If You Are A Feminist

You Cannot:

  • tell women not to wear frilly dresses
  • tell men they can’t cry
  • tell women not to dress masculine
  • tell transwomen they are not real women
  • tell transmen they are not real men
  • tell women of color that you(a white woman) face the same amount of discrimination
  • tell a rape survivor it is there fault because of how they were dressed
  • tell lesbians that there problems are not as important as yours(everyones problems are important)
  • Exclude minorities from plans, meetings, rallies, anything


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How To

How To: Be A Feminist

Want to learn how you too can be a feminist? Follow these easy steps:

  1. Believe that everyone should have equal rights.
  2. Get educated about the different types of discrimination.
  3. Try not to be discriminatory toward anyone.

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Congratulations you are a feminist! Go forth and continue learning and adapting to new information. Steps two and three are never over.

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5 Things Feminism Is Not 

Many people are put-off by the word feminism simply because they believe it means something it doesn’t.


Women want to be treated superior to men.

Most female feminists do not want to be treated better than men. They simply want to be treated equal to men.

Women want to be paid equal money for doing less work than a man.

Again, most female feminists want equal pay for equal work. If a man and a woman have the same job and do the same work they should get the same pay check.

Feminists only care about female rape victims.

Most feminists believe that if someone rapes someone else, it is wrong and they should be put in jail. The genders do not matter.

Feminists think women should dress masculine and don’t shave their legs.

Most feminists believe anyone should wear whatever they are comfortable with. If you feel good in a dress, wear it. If you like jeans and a t-shirt, that’s cool too. No matter your gender.

 Feminists are all gay and hate men.

Nope. There are lots of straight feminists as well as men feminists.


The definition of feminism is equality of the sexes. That’s all we want. If you have any questions about any of these statements or have anything to add feel free to message me!

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Words You Should Know

It’s hard to keep up with which words are correct and which are not in style anymore, and I myself am no expert. So this list is a work in progress. It is not complete and it may be updated at times to account for new information.


the theory of the political, economic, and social equality of the sexes


a variety of ethical theory and practice that emphasizes reason, scientific inquiry, and human fulfillment in the natural world and often rejects the importance of belief in God.

Biological Sex:

Biological sex identifies a person as either female, male, or intersex. It is determined by a person’s sexual anatomy, chromosomes, and hormones. Biological sex is often simply referred to as “sex.”


Sometimes, a child is born with sex chromosomes that are different from the usual XX of the female or the XY of the male. The child may develop sex and/or reproductive organs that are ambiguous — not completely female and not completely male. Ambiguous sex organs can develop for other reasons, as well. These are called intersex conditions.

Gender Identity:

our deeply held, internal sense of self as male, female, a blend of both, or neither; who we internally know ourselves to be


term for someone who exclusively identifies as their sex assigned at birth. The term cisgender is not indicative of gender expression, sexual orientation, hormonal makeup, physical anatomy, or how one is perceived in daily life.


encompassing term of many gender identities of those who do not identify or exclusively identify with their sex assigned at birth. The term transgender is not indicative of gender expression, sexual orientation, hormonal makeup, physical anatomy, or how one is perceived in daily life.


An umbrella term encompassing many different genders of people who commonly do not have a gender and/or have a gender that they describe as neutral.


Refers to those who identify as two genders.


An identity commonly used by people who do not identify or express their gender within the gender binary. Those who identify as genderqueer may identify as neither male nor female, may see themselves as outside of or in between the binary gender boxes, or may simply feel restricted by gender labels.

Gender Fluid:

noting or relating to a person whose gender identity or gender expression is not fixed and shifts over time or depending on the situation.

Gender Non-Conforming:


someone who does not experience sexual attraction


noting or relating to a person who is romantically or sexually attracted to both men and women, or to people of various gender identities; ambisexual.


a person who does not experience sexual attraction unless they form a strong emotional connection with someone.


Homosexuality is considered to be same-sex sexual attraction and behavior and “gay” is a synonym of homosexuality. Gay is a term that is not gender specific, so men or women can be termed “gay.”


A term for people of marginalized gender identities and sexual orientations who are not cisgender and/or heterosexual. This term has a complicated history as a reclaimed slur.


a female homosexual


a person who is sexually attracted to members of the same sex


Capable of being attracted to many/any gender(s).


a person who experiences little or no romantic attraction to others.


only experiences romantic attraction after developing an emotional connection beforehand


a potential sexual attraction to non-binary identified individuals. This does not generally describe an attraction to specific genitalia or birth assignments but rather is an inclusive term.


is the non-possessive, honest, responsible and ethical
philosophy and practice of loving multiple people simultaneously.


someone who follows or practices Islam, a monotheistic Abrahamic religion. Muslims consider the Quran (Koran), their holy book, to be the verbatim word of God as revealed to the Islamic prophet and messenger Muhammad. They also follow the teachings and practices of Muhammad (sunnah ) as recorded in traditional accounts (hadith). “Muslim” is an Arabic word meaning “one who submits (to God)”.


is an Abrahamic monotheistic religion which professes that there is only one and incomparable God (Allah) and that Muhammad is the last messenger of God. Islam teaches that God is merciful, all-powerful, and unique; and He has guided mankind through revealed scriptures, natural signs, and a line of prophets sealed by Muhammad. The primary scriptures of Islam are theQuran, viewed by Muslims as the verbatim word of God, and the teachings and normative example of Muhammad.

If you find a word on here that you either want to know more about or you think I have the wrong definition please message me and let me know! Also if you know of a word that I don’t have listed that you believe could be helpful for people to know message me and I will see about adding it.

Credit for each definition is in the linked word it corresponds too. I do not claim credit for the definitions. 

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The Woman-Identified Elixir of Life

Radicalesbians and Victoria Woodhull

Feminism, according to Merriam-Webster, “is the belief that men and women should have equal rights and opportunities” (Credit). This simple idea has been expressed and fought for in many different ways over the years. We separated the phases of feminism into waves, each with its own unique fights and desires. The first wave of feminism happened from the late nineteenth century to the early twentieth century. This wave focused mostly on woman’s suffrage, or the right to vote. It was also mainly driven by straight, white, cisgender, middle class women (Credit). These women knew that they needed to be able to make political decisions if they were going to be able to do anything about the other problems they wanted to fix. Once the right to vote was acquired, it prompted the second wave of feminism (Credit). Which was from the 1960’s to the 1990’s (Credit). The second wave focused mostly “on the workplace, sexuality, family, and reproductive rights” (Credit).

Victoria Woodhull was a part of the first wave of feminism. She was born in Homer, Ohio in 1838. As a child, she worked as a clairvoyant in her abusive father’s traveling carnival show. She got married at fifteen to escape her violent father, but left her husband after only five years because he was an alcoholic (Credit). She remarried in 1866, and two years later, her and her family moved to New York City. Because of her talents as a clairvoyant, her sister and she became the spiritual advisers to Cornelius Vanderbilt, who in turn helped with their finances on Wall Street. The sisters opened a brokerage house in 1870. In the same year, they started a newspaper that promoted women’s suffrage, and Victoria announced that she would run for President of the United States. She got nominated in 1872 for the Equal Rights Party. Although popular with other women who believed in her platform, she lost because those women could not actually vote yet. After divorcing her second husband, she moved in 1878 to England where she married again. She stayed active in the woman’s suffrage movement until she died in 1927 (Credit).

Victoria Woodhull was a free love advocate, believing sex shouldn’t be confined to marriage, and wrote “The Elixir of Life: or, Why Do We Die?” which suggested that women’s sexual desire was just as important as a man’s. This meant she though sex should be enjoyed by both men and women. She felt that the idea that sex is all about the man’s pleasure was ridiculous. She said, “It is a fact terrible to contemplate, yet it is nevertheless true, and ought to be pressed upon the world for its recognition: that fully one-half of all women seldom or never experience any pleasure whatever in the sexual act” (Kolmar & Bartkowski, 2010, pp. 86-88). Because of her belief in “free love,” Woodhull was legally charged with adultery. To combat the “personal attacks from political enemies” during her campaign for presidency, she reported on the sexual scandals of Luther Challis and Henry Ward Beecher. Beecher was a respected minister and Challis was a stockbroker. This got her “arrested and tried for sending obscene information through the mail” and she “spent the election night in prison” (Credit).

During the second wave of feminism, Betty Friedan, the first president of the National Organization for Women, or NOW, said that lesbians were threatening the feminist movement, because “they distracted from the goals of gaining economic and social equality for women.” Many feminists in NOW “felt that lesbian issues were irrelevant to the majority of women and would hinder the feminist cause, and that identifying the movement with lesbians and their rights would make it harder to win feminist victories.” Many lesbian feminists split off from NOW and made their own groups. One group, founded in 1970, was the “Lavender Menace” which ambushed the Second Congress to Unite Women, which was sponsored by NOW. The congress had left out lesbian rights issues from their itinerary. The Lavender Menace group turned the lights off at the conference and when they came back on they had shirts with “Lavender Menace” on them. They then handed out “The Woman-Identified Woman” manifesto (Credit).

“The Woman-Identified Woman” was about how the word ‘lesbian’ was used to insult women and keep them in line with social norms. An important piece of this manifesto was as follows:

For in this sexist society, for a woman to be independent means she can’t be a woman-she must be a dyke. That in itself should tell us where women are at. It says as clearly as can be said: women and person are contradictory terms. For a lesbian is not considered a ‘real woman.’ And yet, in popular thinking, there is really only one essential difference between a lesbian and other women: that of sexual orientation-which is to say, when you strip off all the packaging, you must finally realize that the essence of being a ‘woman’ is to get fucked be men. (Kolmar & Bartkowski, 2010, pp. 197-200)

When given the context of why this group came to be, it is clear that the lesbian feminists are angry that they were denied a spot in NOW because of their sexual preference; they didn’t want to be fucked by men, so they weren’t ‘women’ enough.

Victoria Woodhull and the Radicalesbians both were fighting for sexual freedom. The only difference was their sexualities.


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Kolmar, W. K., & Bartkowski, F. (2010). Feminist Theory (Third ed.). New York: David Patterson.

Feminist of the Past- Sojourner Truth

Sojourner Truth was born Isabella Bomefree. She was the second youngest child of ten. She was born a slave (Credit). When her ‘owner’ died in 1806, the nine year old was sold at auction with a flock of sheep for $100. She was sold a few more times until finally she ended up the property of John Dumont, a New York resident. In 1817, she married an older slave named Thomas and they had at least 3 children (Credit). In 1826, a year before New York passed a law emancipating their slaves, Truth took her newborn daughter and walked off the plantation. She found refuge with a Quaker family, and she was never owned by someone again. She eventually fought in court for her other children, one of whom was illegally sold to a man in Alabama (Credit). “The case was one of the first in which a black woman successfully challenged a white man in a United States court.” On June 1, 1843, Isabella Bomefree became Sojourner Truth. She found religion and devoted her life to the abolition of slavery. “In 1844, she joined the Northampton Association of Education and Industry in Northampton, Massachusetts. Founded by abolitionists, the organization supported a broad reform agenda including women’s rights and pacifism.” They eventually disbanded in 1846, but Truth continued to be an avid activist (Credit).

In 1850, Truth wrote a book about her experiences and spoke at the first National Woman’s Rights Convention. After this she started touring with another abolitionist giving speeches about slavery and human rights. In May of 1851, Truth gave a speech that eventually becomes known as “Ain’t I A Woman?” at the Ohio Women’s Rights Convention in Akron (Credit). The Speech was a response to a number of male speakers who claimed that women shouldn’t be allowed to vote because they were inferior to men. This assumption was due to their belief that women were “weak and required special treatment” (Credit). Truth responded,

That man over there says that women need to be helped into carriages, and lifted over ditches, and to have the best place everywhere. Nobody ever helps me into carriages, or over mud-puddles, or gives me any best place! And ain’t I a woman? Look at me! Look at my arm! I have ploughed and planted, and gathered into barns, and no man could head me! And ain’t I a woman? I could work as much and eat as much as a man – when I could get it – and bear the lash as well! And ain’t I a woman? (Credit)

She calls out the fact that white men thought women delicate only when they were talking about white women. Black women were expected to do as much as black men. So if black women were not inherently delicate then neither were white women and their argument was nonsensical.

Since Truth’s time women have gained the right to vote. But there is still much to do in order for public opinion to reach the beliefs of Sojourner. The question “Are women the weaker sex?” was asked on and 41% of people said yes. A few responses from the yes side are:

Women are weak!!! All you women just face it. It is the way nature created you. Women were always the weaker sex. Since the beginning of human evolution, men were always the hunters and the ones who went outside and did physical work. Women were the ones who took care of the house, cleaned, prepared the food, and took care of the children. In the present day, it is the same. We have not evolved and switched roles. We are still the same. The only difference now is that you women are trying to take on the roles of men, stealing our jobs, fucking up shit in politics and the government, and running around out and about in a world you do not understand. You should be at home, in your kitchen, preparing food for your husband, waiting for him to come back from work while you clean the house and take care of the children. I cannot believe all of this women’s rights BULLSHIT.


You’re joking, right? If women are man’s equal, why don’t they just repeal the rape laws, since an equal woman should be able to fight off her attacker? This is a ridiculous debate. Women have become jealous of men in every way possible. They no longer know how to appreciate who they are.

A few responses from the no side are:

NO, absolutely not! The truth is that, yes, men are generally physically stronger than women. It’s a fact and the feminists are foolish to deny that. BUT, there are many cases in which women are stronger than men(continues).


Definition of weaker: Physically inferior. While there is no question that men are physically stronger than women in terms of muscle and size, women possess the physical ability to do something that a mans body would never be capable of; child birth.(continues)


Each gender has different strengths and weaknesses. Men are obviously more athletic than women. They are stronger, more agile, faster and have quicker reflexes, while women only have better flexibility. But athletisism isnt the only way to measure strength.

Sojourner Truth would be appalled at how little men have changed over the years. She would probably be aggravated that even most of the people who do not believe that women are the weaker sex as a whole they still believe that men are physically stronger than women. As she states in her “Ain’t I A Woman” speech, some women are treated as though they are physically weaker but in actuality they are not. She would probably still be giving speeches and attending rallies, urging people to change their beliefs about women.


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5 Phrases That Make You Sound Like An Asshole

I want to start by saying; it is okay to make

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mistakes. It really is. No one is born

knowing every socially correct word or

phrase for every aspect of life. We learn.

And words and phrases go in and out of

style. Sometimes in certain parts of the

world one thing is considered polite but

considered rude somewhere else. So yeah I

understand the frustration. Like I said ‘it is

okay to make mistakes.’ What isn’t okay is

to be an asshole. If you offend someone,

apologize, and do NOT say it again.

Phrase 1*: ‘You wear a hijab because you are oppressed.’

Wearing a hijab is a personal and religious choice. Part of feminism is letting everyone wear what they feel most comfortable in. This includes hijabs.

Phrase 2: ‘Trans girls have male privilege because they are born boys.’

Trans girls have a whole other level of oppression that we as cis girls will never have to face so show some compassion to your fellow woman.

Phrase 3: ‘You don’t really want to be a house wife; that’s just your husband not wanting you to have a career.’

Some women really enjoy staying home with their kids. Some women enjoy not having kids, only a career. Some women do both. All are valid.

Phrase 4: ‘Saving yourself for marriage is anti-feminist.’

Nope. Sexual preferences and when you have is a personal choice. Neither prude shaming nor slut shaming is okay.

Phrase 5: ‘If your girlfriend dresses masculine then you’re not really gay.’

The way people dress is their business. Who someone dates is also their business. So mind yours.

Once again, everyone makes mistakes. The difference between making a mistake and being an asshole is knowledge. You now know these phrases are wrong, so don’t use them and you are well on your way to not being an asshole:)

Feel free to share some phrases you’ve heard that should be avoided, below!

*These are in no particular order.